I forgive, but I also learn a lesson. I won’t hate you, but I’ll never get close enough for you to hurt me again. I can’t let my forgiveness become foolishness. ~Tony Gaskins
Reasons to Forgive the Person Who Hurt You the Most
At this time of the year, your personal relationships will get a little more attention than usual. During the holidays, we often spend more time with friends and family, take part in holiday parties, visit other people’s homes and take the time to stop.
Sometimes this whole moment can be very enjoyable. At other times, we feel obliged to spend time with people who have hurt us. For others, our broken relationships prevent us from spending time together and we feel sad, alone or angry. At a time of year when we spend time with loved ones, we are often reminded of the relationships that hurt us the most.
Therefore, I would like to encourage you, in the spirit of the holidays, to forgive someone who has hurt you. This does not mean that the other person gets a free pass, but that you can feel better and develop the trauma of the relationship that has haunted you.
Forgiveness is often easier said than done. There are so many reasons why you must forgive the person who hurt you the most. I hope these reasons will help you find the desire to heal broken relationships in your life during this vacation period.
Reasons to Forgive
1. We make all the mistakes
It’s undeniable – we all make mistakes. It is in our nature as humans to fail, whether in our work environment, our family life or in our relationships. We are all doomed to disappoint ourselves at some point, but that does not mean we have to pollute ourselves. It is difficult to live with a mistake and learning to forgive oneself is even more difficult.
2. Holding anger is painful
“Keeping anger is like catching burning coal with the intention of throwing it to another – you are the one who is burned.”
With practice, you will be able to significantly reduce the anger, bitterness, and resentment you feel. No matter where you are now, you can improve. It’s a process in progress. Continue like that.
3. You can not go to the right things
You can now decide that the negative experiences of your past can not predict your future. Find out what’s the next positive step, no matter how small or how difficult it is, and take it with you. After all, the only thing to do is to continue. Take this jump without hesitation, without looking back. Forget the past, look ahead and get ready for the future.
4. We would all be happy with the little things
To appreciate the small things in life, we must focus on what is enjoyable, nourishing and sustainable in our lives, and away from those events that are annoying, frustrating or hurtful. It means practicing gratitude for everyday things that are easily seen as acquired or completely missing. Adopting this perspective does not prevent the occurrence of negative events, but it can help us to not overestimate their importance in our lives.
5. We are all responsible for our own happiness
The next time you are looking for happiness, look in the mirror. This reflection is the one that is responsible for your happiness.
Of course, there are times when you feel different emotions, but all this should not stop you from knowing happiness again, because everyone deserves to be happy.